Why you Can’t Quit, and What you can do About It

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Some people say that rehab is for quitters, and they’re completely right. Quitting a drug addiction is one of the best things a person can do for themselves, but it isn’t just about willpower. If you ever go to one of the anonymous types of groups, you know that one of the most important parts of the entire process is to admit that you can’t get away from your addiction on your own.

If you were actually able to overcome your addiction without help, you wouldn’t really be an addict in the first place. This is basic logic, but if you haven’t gotten it before don’t blame yourself. Addiction makes genuises as simple as fools, and often one of the first things to go is your ability to reason with regard to yourself. If you’re coherent enough to understand that you’re addicted, you’re ready to understand that you can’t quit on your own.

The power of addiction is greater than any individual human. This is why every program tells you that you need to accept a higher power and let that power begin to run things in your life. They aren’t lying, because you really do need to accept that you’re powerless. But with the help of something greater than yourself you can succeed. You can allow your addiction to destroy your life and render you nothing a meaningless and forgotten footnote of history. Or you can let a higher power take your life and make it into something you can be proud of living.

The Alcohol Effects

Choices are to be easy. Life is too fleeting, you believe, to waste the moments. Hesitation is for the weak-minded; you prefer instead to be decisive. And so each sip of alcohol is taken without worry. You never spare seconds for implications, potentials, concerns. You’re driven instead by impulses — and you care nothing for the aftermath.

You should — because the effects of alcohol are far worse than mere discomfort in the morning.

It is believed that over 130 million Americans drink alcohol each year. Of those individuals, almost 20 million are considered addicts — unable to function without some form of stimulation throughout the day. And such stimulation can lead to tragedy: with over half of the total vehicular slaughters created by drinking, 47 percent of all industrial accidents having spirits as their cause and 43 percent of all families directly affected by alcohol. It is the number one drug in the country, costing $100 million dollars each year in health care services and criminal justice maintenance (with 40 percent of all violent offenders listing it as the reason for their behavior).

Such numbers are frightening… if only because they should not exist.

Alcoholism is a disease. This can’t be denied. What can be denied, however, is the alcohol itself. Abstinence is the only true cure for this illness — and it must be followed to spare lives and budgets from the strain.

The decisions you make have far greater consequences than the immediate high. They instead impact the entire country, becoming part of an epidemic. This must stop — now.

The Education Necessity: Addiction

Silence fills a classroom: awkward and unrelenting, laced with student dread. A teacher stands behind a lectern, forced to give a lecture, hating every dull-eyed stare that’s offered to her. Her pupils don’t… care about what she has to say. They’re interested only in escape, are not so subtly counting the minutes (tracing the clock’s movements above her head). And so the message she offers is a weak one. She warns that drugs are evil and demands abstinence. She then sends all children on their way, certain her job is done.

It isn’t — it hasn’t even begun.

The notion of addiction is one all adults are familiar with. Youths, however, often meet it with confusion (and are drawn into its horrors before they even realize it). This is a reflection of the lack of knowledge that is being offered within schools; and it must be changed.

The current notion that guides education is one of total abstinence: teachers provide nothing but the most rigid of warnings and give no explanations to support them. Because of this over 50 percent of teens have admitted to sampling drugs regularly (with 15 percent of those eventually becoming addicts). They are left unaware of the ramifications of their choices and assume no harm can occur.

The truth must instead be offered. Educational programs must be developed to counter teenage rebellion. The concerns of drugs and alcohol must be noted and all facts must be made accessible. Short-term solutions (like the popular D.A.R.E.) have been proven to have no effect. The curriculum must instead be revised, with information offered in detail to all age groups.

Knowledge truly is power — and students need it.

The Community Disease: Addiction

It’s a belief of a singularity. Addiction is assumed to affect only the ones who choose to succumb to it. And their decisions — while thought to be unwise — are thoroughly their own. They have the right to make them, just as you have the right to refuse them. This is the assumption. All dependencies may be deemed unsafe but their effects are limited to the ones who indulge in them. And that’s a truth that’s not meant to be contested…. except it is.

Addiction is not an illness that’s shaped to immediacy. It’s not limited to the individual. It instead sprawls out, leaving its mark on entire communities. And — while many would wish to refute this — the statistics are undeniable.

As of 2011, America must spend over $180 billion dollars each year to battle the aftermath of addiction. This money is filtered first to the health care system (which must support treatment programs, medication, counseling and, worse, the effects of drug induced injuries — such as gun wounds, vehicle accidents and more). The courts must then receive portions of this allowance: with extra time and effort devoted to prosecuting cases and finding empty cells. And finally research must be offered funding in hopes of finding potential cures for alcoholism, tobacco diseases and more.

The numbers are staggering and the cause is avoidable. Addiction is felt among the masses, demanding higher taxes and constant awareness. This brands it far more than the choice of specific individuals — it instead makes it a national concern.

The abuse of substances must be tamed… if only to reduce the strain of the yearly budget, allowing those dollars to be given back to the communities themselves.

The Addiction Myth: Futility

Some diseases can’t be cured. Some truths can’t be reversed. This is the philosophy that guides you — addiction is an inevitability, unable to be undone, shackled to compulsions that can’t be erased. There is no treatment that can end it. There is no way to heal the scars. It’s instead a certainty and can’t be conquered. Seeking help therefore would be a waste of time: there would be nothing to gain from it. You would instead only be forced to endure useless programs and detoxifications before eventually succumbing again.

This is the pattern that can’t be broken. This is the fact that can’t be denied.

Addiction — you know — is an illness with no proven relief. And you assume that there is no reason then to even try to combat it. Nothing can be done and nothing can be earned.

This belief is common among users. It is also, however, incorrect.

While none can deny that drug abuse is a disease (affecting both mind and body, causing chemical imbalances and manipulating the central nervous system), none should also deny the need for treatment. The severity of addiction is not an excuse to leave it unaided. It is instead a demand for vigilance — with rehabilitation programs sought and counseling secured.

The all too tragic myth of this disability is that nothing can be done to defeat it. Such defeat is relative, however, and depends on the individual: therapy, medication, family support and a complete detox can all offer great success. And yet too often are these methods denied — with only an estimated eight percent of addicts even attempting treatment (with those numbers decreasing as relapses occur).

What all individuals must understand is that no disease is to be ignored — even one caused by avoidable factors. Addiction can no longer be deemed impossible to counter. It must instead be recognized as a problem in need of a solution…. with that solution being recognized as rehab.

Don’t assume it’s futile to attempt healing. Recognize instead that it’s vital to try.

Addiction: Individual Variables

There is no such thing as equality — at least not when drugs are involved. Too often is addiction assumed to be a myth, a product of weak control and weaker restraint. Individuals cite cases of users who have sampled substances for years and have managed still to maintain their lives. This is proof, they believe, of the absurdity of a disease.

That disease exists, however — and it affects 22 million Americans each year, appearing due to a variety of factors that are undeniable (and even sometimes unavoidable). While it is true that some individuals may be able to resist dependence, the majority will not. And the reasons are clear:

One: Genetics. Nothing defines a life more than the ones that came before it. Genetics offers explanations into all worries — including addiction. Those who have family histories filled to substance abuse and drug concerns are more than three times as likely to succumb to problems themselves. Their bodies are predisposed to compulsions and they will develop tolerances far more quickly.

Two: Childhood Experiences. Children are shaped by mimicry. They learn through shadowing their families, watching every gesture, every action. This is how they gain their behaviors; and often those behaviors can include substance abuse. Those who were exposed to drugs early in life are 50 percent more likely to become reliant on them in adulthood: just because the pattern was taught to be normal.

Three: Longevity. Addiction is not an instant disease. It demands time and consistency, with tolerance developing over extended periods. Those who use drugs frequently therefore are more likely to develop a need for them. The chances of becoming dependent on substances is increased dramatically with each attempt.

Never assume that addiction can be denied. The statistics are not favorable and will instead only support compulsions. Understand the risks that can heighten chances and combat them then through abstinence.

Willpower, Weak Results: Addiction

You are defined by rules. Life is a collection of standards and certainties, the boundaries that are created in your mind. There are limitations you create; there are duties you must answer; and nothing can sway you from that — even drugs. You are far too disciplined to succumb to the worries of abuse or addiction. No substances can control you. You instead will control all of them, using them as you wish and defying the statistics. And, when you want to stop, you… will. There’s no doubt of that. There is only the assurance of your own willpower, the good sense you know you possess.

That good sense is not enough to save you from disease, however.

Justification is what drives many addicts. They assume that they will be able to shape their bodies to their needs, rather than the needs of drugs. They believe that they can end their usage whenever they choose — and then simply choose not to.

The truth is less sympathetic, however. Addiction cannot be undone by simple force of will. Individuals cannot overcome the effects of drugs on their minds and bodies — if only because the effects have left those individuals too altered to make rational decisions.  Compulsion becomes the only thought worth having and the notion of quitting is disregarded.

It is imperative therefore that all addicts — including you — recognize the need for more than mere willpower. Don’t assume you can overcome a problem by yourself. You can’t. This is proven in the 92 percent of users who refuse to receive treatment each year (none of whom are able to then be cured). Don’t become a victim to statistics. Choose instead to seek help and counter a disease.

You may be defined to rules but addiction will change those rules completely. Defend against it with rehabilitation.

The Common Causes: Substance Abuse

It’s an all too familiar concept — substance abuse. We recognize it as a concern, a reliance on tastes that shouldn’t even exist. Dependencies can form; health can suffer; and the result is the expected tragedy.

Too often, however, are the causes of that tragedy ignored: thought to be unavoidable, indeterminable. The truth is more certain, though.

Substance abuse — while not always able to be predicted — does often follow specific patterns. And, if these patterns are noted quickly, they can then be better defended against.

The roots of most problems occur in childhood:

One: Early Exposure. Behaviors are learned, understood as common through experience; and individuals who witness their families and friends sampling substances (whether drugs, alcohol, cigarettes or more) will consider the actions to be normal. It is estimated that those who are exposed to these patterns as children are over twice as likely to mimic them later in life — often before they even shed their teenage statuses.

Two: Unstable Environment. Chaos breeds a need to escape. A lack of control demands relief. And unhappy environments (caused by physical or verbal abuse, poverty, divorce, constant relocation or other factors) can cause substance dependency. Individuals who experience unstable home lives are 44 percent more likely to try some form of drugs.

Three: Apathetic Relationships. All children crave affection. They want their parents’ approval, seek to earn security. When it’s not given, however, they become willing to settle for any form of recognition — even anger. Substance abuse can begin as a cry for attention; and those who aren’t cared for will often turn to alcohol or harder drugs. It’s believed that 50 percent of teens will respond in this way.

Recognizing these causes is essential for all individuals. When they can be understood, they can be more effectively combated in adult years — and this can lead to a lessening of abuse and the eventual dependence it can inspire.

The Adolescent Traits

An assumption of innocence, a trust in youth: substance abuse is an adult disease, it’s believed. Children aren’t to experience it. They’re instead to be immune — kept protected from the ravages of drugs and alcohol, unaware of what could await when their teenage monikers dissolves.

This is a certainty shared by most parents — and it’s sadly an incorrect one.

Substance abuse is not defined by age. It’s instead caused by a variety of traits: many of which can be predicted in early adolescence. When these traits are recognized they can then be prepared for:

One: Lack of Social Skills. Relationships must be forged in adolescence — this is, it’s understood, the only way to gain essential foundations. Children who lack the ability to interact with their peers, however, may find such foundations impossible to achieve… and may instead turn to drugs as an answer. Those who are unable to form normal friendships with others (exhibiting symptoms of undeveloped communication) are 50 percent more likely to become substance abusers.

Two: Attention Disabilities. Fickleness often defines teenagers. Their moods are fast and their patience is limited. Certain individuals offer extremes, however — through aggressive emotions and unpredictable behaviors, a total lack of focus. This often appears in the form of Attention Deficit Disorder (or similar problems) and can lead to impulsive decisions. These teens can rely on substances to calm their minds and cure their disabilities, even if only temporally. 44 percent of those with attention concerns are estimated to use drugs regularly.

Three: Poor Academic Performances. Education isn’t always an easy thing. Many students struggle with books and statistics, are unable to remember facts. They can’t excel as others do. They instead can offer only the most basic answers — and use substances as a way to compensate. Those who are not gifted academically may rely on drugs to gain a sense of control in their lives and generate confidence (even if it’s momentary). 21 percent of failing students sample substances often.

Note the possible causes of substance abuse to better defend against them — and tame the problem.

The Abuse Dilemma

It was meant to be a causal pleasure — a drug was to be sampled occasionally, was to soothe the terrors of the day. Its effects would be easy; its relief would be instant; and no harm was to come from the infrequent tastes, the little bursts of consumption. This was the intention you created.

That intention has failed, however.

You find yourself craving a substance often, wanting to experience it each afternoon. Life is a series of obligations and these must be countered — with a drug offering a quick solution. It’s become a ritual to indulge in what you now  need; and yet you still think it’s not an addiction. It’s considered just a simple pastime…. until you try to quit and can’t.

What often begins as abuse (where individuals make a deliberate choice to partake in specific drugs, are not dependent upon them) quickly devolves into addiction. The desire to occasionally taste substances eventually overwhelms — with users confident in their own abilities to refuse drugs, certain they can handle more simply because they’ve managed to succeed so far. This belief triggers excess and excess triggers tolerance. Nervous systems become immune to basic doses, require more and more to obtain the wanted effects; and suddenly an addiction is formed.

It is an all too easy process and all too common one.

It is estimated that over 80 percent of individuals who use substances regularly will eventually become dependent on them. The need for alcohol, cocaine, marijuana and more will be impossible to ignore — simply because it’s become too vital to the daily experience. These individuals will be unable to  end the cycle they’ve started and will instead rely on it.

This is the great concern with substance abuse: few have the ability to simply limit themselves. Indulgence becomes accepted and that acceptance turns to compulsion. It’s vital therefore to end all usage of drugs before a tolerance to them can build. Abstinence is the only defense and the only hope.