Why you Can’t Quit, and What you can do About It

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Some people say that rehab is for quitters, and they’re completely right. Quitting a drug addiction is one of the best things a person can do for themselves, but it isn’t just about willpower. If you ever go to one of the anonymous types of groups, you know that one of the most important parts of the entire process is to admit that you can’t get away from your addiction on your own.

If you were actually able to overcome your addiction without help, you wouldn’t really be an addict in the first place. This is basic logic, but if you haven’t gotten it before don’t blame yourself. Addiction makes genuises as simple as fools, and often one of the first things to go is your ability to reason with regard to yourself. If you’re coherent enough to understand that you’re addicted, you’re ready to understand that you can’t quit on your own.

The power of addiction is greater than any individual human. This is why every program tells you that you need to accept a higher power and let that power begin to run things in your life. They aren’t lying, because you really do need to accept that you’re powerless. But with the help of something greater than yourself you can succeed. You can allow your addiction to destroy your life and render you nothing a meaningless and forgotten footnote of history. Or you can let a higher power take your life and make it into something you can be proud of living.

Dealing with an Alcohol Addiction

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Alcohol addictions can cause a lot of pain and suffering. When someone is suffering from this type of addiction, it can cause family and friends to be pushed to the side, trust can be lost, and finances can be destroyed. If you have a loved one who is facing an alcohol addiction, here are some things to keep in mind that will help you deal with the addiction.

The Addict Must Be Ready to Heal

The road to recovery cannot happen until the addict is ready to face their addiction. Every addict will be ready to heal at their own pace. Sometimes it takes a major event such as a DUI or a death of a loved one to get the addict to face their addictions. Other times the addict may never be ready. From the outside, the first step to dealing with the problem is realizing the addict must be ready to heal for any rehab or recovery to be successful.

Supporters Need Help Too

There is a lot of emphasis placed on getting help for the addict, but those that are around them also need help and support. If you are around an alcohol addict, you need to make sure you are seeking help and support for yourself. Counseling and AA meetings are great ways to seek support if you are supporting someone with an alcohol addiction.

Alcohol addictions are not easy to handle, but seeking support for yourself and knowing the addict must be ready for recovery will help you handle the situation better.

Substance Abuse: Be in the Know

The key is to be informed. Why? Because it could save someone’s life.

Somebody out there is in danger of making the choice that could change a dozen lives in one day: it’s a terrible choice, and it’s called slitting the wrists. Suicide.

And the horrifyingly amazing thing is what causes suicide: addiction.

It’s simple! It’s all about addiction. Substance abuse is centered around addiction. When you have an individual that has no recourse but to turn to all kinds of ‘pleasures,’ you know there’s going to be a serious problem. Very soon the addiction will simply take over the real world; but it won’t be enough….

It’s just a substitute. And it’s never satisfying. Someone suffering from substance abuse and addiction will always keep coming back for more — and more — and more, until reality will vanish, leaving nothing but despair.

And that despair will turn to a life that’ll end in seconds. It’s something to seriously avoid.

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As mentioned in the title, be in the know. Learn the facts. Visit sites all over about substance abuse and addiction, such as southdakotana.org. You know of anyone who exhibits the signs of addiction and substance abuse, act without hesitation. Save a person’s life.

There couldn’t be any more truth to this statement: “information is power.” And you can bet that when it involves the life of another human being, there’s nothing more powerful. You have a friend, family member, or even an acquaintance dealing with this scary thing called substance abuse or addiction? Get them help. Trust that they’ll eventually thank you for it.

The Community Disease: Addiction

It’s a belief of a singularity. Addiction is assumed to affect only the ones who choose to succumb to it. And their decisions — while thought to be unwise — are thoroughly their own. They have the right to make them, just as you have the right to refuse them. This is the assumption. All dependencies may be deemed unsafe but their effects are limited to the ones who indulge in them. And that’s a truth that’s not meant to be contested…. except it is.

Addiction is not an illness that’s shaped to immediacy. It’s not limited to the individual. It instead sprawls out, leaving its mark on entire communities. And — while many would wish to refute this — the statistics are undeniable.

As of 2011, America must spend over $180 billion dollars each year to battle the aftermath of addiction. This money is filtered first to the health care system (which must support treatment programs, medication, counseling and, worse, the effects of drug induced injuries — such as gun wounds, vehicle accidents and more). The courts must then receive portions of this allowance: with extra time and effort devoted to prosecuting cases and finding empty cells. And finally research must be offered funding in hopes of finding potential cures for alcoholism, tobacco diseases and more.

The numbers are staggering and the cause is avoidable. Addiction is felt among the masses, demanding higher taxes and constant awareness. This brands it far more than the choice of specific individuals — it instead makes it a national concern.

The abuse of substances must be tamed… if only to reduce the strain of the yearly budget, allowing those dollars to be given back to the communities themselves.

The Addiction Myth: Futility

Some diseases can’t be cured. Some truths can’t be reversed. This is the philosophy that guides you — addiction is an inevitability, unable to be undone, shackled to compulsions that can’t be erased. There is no treatment that can end it. There is no way to heal the scars. It’s instead a certainty and can’t be conquered. Seeking help therefore would be a waste of time: there would be nothing to gain from it. You would instead only be forced to endure useless programs and detoxifications before eventually succumbing again.

This is the pattern that can’t be broken. This is the fact that can’t be denied.

Addiction — you know — is an illness with no proven relief. And you assume that there is no reason then to even try to combat it. Nothing can be done and nothing can be earned.

This belief is common among users. It is also, however, incorrect.

While none can deny that drug abuse is a disease (affecting both mind and body, causing chemical imbalances and manipulating the central nervous system), none should also deny the need for treatment. The severity of addiction is not an excuse to leave it unaided. It is instead a demand for vigilance — with rehabilitation programs sought and counseling secured.

The all too tragic myth of this disability is that nothing can be done to defeat it. Such defeat is relative, however, and depends on the individual: therapy, medication, family support and a complete detox can all offer great success. And yet too often are these methods denied — with only an estimated eight percent of addicts even attempting treatment (with those numbers decreasing as relapses occur).

What all individuals must understand is that no disease is to be ignored — even one caused by avoidable factors. Addiction can no longer be deemed impossible to counter. It must instead be recognized as a problem in need of a solution…. with that solution being recognized as rehab.

Don’t assume it’s futile to attempt healing. Recognize instead that it’s vital to try.

Addiction: Individual Variables

There is no such thing as equality — at least not when drugs are involved. Too often is addiction assumed to be a myth, a product of weak control and weaker restraint. Individuals cite cases of users who have sampled substances for years and have managed still to maintain their lives. This is proof, they believe, of the absurdity of a disease.

That disease exists, however — and it affects 22 million Americans each year, appearing due to a variety of factors that are undeniable (and even sometimes unavoidable). While it is true that some individuals may be able to resist dependence, the majority will not. And the reasons are clear:

One: Genetics. Nothing defines a life more than the ones that came before it. Genetics offers explanations into all worries — including addiction. Those who have family histories filled to substance abuse and drug concerns are more than three times as likely to succumb to problems themselves. Their bodies are predisposed to compulsions and they will develop tolerances far more quickly.

Two: Childhood Experiences. Children are shaped by mimicry. They learn through shadowing their families, watching every gesture, every action. This is how they gain their behaviors; and often those behaviors can include substance abuse. Those who were exposed to drugs early in life are 50 percent more likely to become reliant on them in adulthood: just because the pattern was taught to be normal.

Three: Longevity. Addiction is not an instant disease. It demands time and consistency, with tolerance developing over extended periods. Those who use drugs frequently therefore are more likely to develop a need for them. The chances of becoming dependent on substances is increased dramatically with each attempt.

Never assume that addiction can be denied. The statistics are not favorable and will instead only support compulsions. Understand the risks that can heighten chances and combat them then through abstinence.

Willpower, Weak Results: Addiction

You are defined by rules. Life is a collection of standards and certainties, the boundaries that are created in your mind. There are limitations you create; there are duties you must answer; and nothing can sway you from that — even drugs. You are far too disciplined to succumb to the worries of abuse or addiction. No substances can control you. You instead will control all of them, using them as you wish and defying the statistics. And, when you want to stop, you… will. There’s no doubt of that. There is only the assurance of your own willpower, the good sense you know you possess.

That good sense is not enough to save you from disease, however.

Justification is what drives many addicts. They assume that they will be able to shape their bodies to their needs, rather than the needs of drugs. They believe that they can end their usage whenever they choose — and then simply choose not to.

The truth is less sympathetic, however. Addiction cannot be undone by simple force of will. Individuals cannot overcome the effects of drugs on their minds and bodies — if only because the effects have left those individuals too altered to make rational decisions.  Compulsion becomes the only thought worth having and the notion of quitting is disregarded.

It is imperative therefore that all addicts — including you — recognize the need for more than mere willpower. Don’t assume you can overcome a problem by yourself. You can’t. This is proven in the 92 percent of users who refuse to receive treatment each year (none of whom are able to then be cured). Don’t become a victim to statistics. Choose instead to seek help and counter a disease.

You may be defined to rules but addiction will change those rules completely. Defend against it with rehabilitation.

The Rehab Assumption

The days are slow — defined by an addiction, a compulsion that can’t be denied. You watch as a friend shapes himself to a drug, devotes every second to the pleasure of a high (and the crippling lows that always follow). He isn’t as he once was. He has instead… changed, has become a sad parody of himself. A substance defines him. A need controls him. And he refuses to admit it, is certain that he’s still the master of his own body, can return to normalcy if he chooses. He simply doesn’t choose to. He seems content instead to wallow in a disease of his own making.

And you… wait, sure that time will eventually reveal the truth. He’ll sink to depression, anxiety, self-loathing — and you’ll be ready, willing then to help.

You should instead, however, be willing now.

A myth shared among the masses is that addicts must be allowed to fall completely before they can understand the seriousness of their disease. No help should be offered. No attempts at intervention should be made. The lesson must instead be one of patience; and individuals must simply watch, allowing the decline to occur naturally.

This is a mistake.

An addiction must be combated as soon as it’s discovered. Don’t hesitate, thinking this is best for the user. It’s not. Instead it will only let him generate higher tolerances and far more devastating needs — making treatment less likely to succeed later on.

Make your presence known early. Demand that rehab programs be sought and that an effort be made to end the problem. Don’t allow an addiction to continue, certain it will cure itself. It won’t. You must instead fight it, forcing your loved ones to enter counseling and receive help. Without your insistence this will not be done.

Get involved to end addiction.

The Common Causes: Substance Abuse

It’s an all too familiar concept — substance abuse. We recognize it as a concern, a reliance on tastes that shouldn’t even exist. Dependencies can form; health can suffer; and the result is the expected tragedy.

Too often, however, are the causes of that tragedy ignored: thought to be unavoidable, indeterminable. The truth is more certain, though.

Substance abuse — while not always able to be predicted — does often follow specific patterns. And, if these patterns are noted quickly, they can then be better defended against.

The roots of most problems occur in childhood:

One: Early Exposure. Behaviors are learned, understood as common through experience; and individuals who witness their families and friends sampling substances (whether drugs, alcohol, cigarettes or more) will consider the actions to be normal. It is estimated that those who are exposed to these patterns as children are over twice as likely to mimic them later in life — often before they even shed their teenage statuses.

Two: Unstable Environment. Chaos breeds a need to escape. A lack of control demands relief. And unhappy environments (caused by physical or verbal abuse, poverty, divorce, constant relocation or other factors) can cause substance dependency. Individuals who experience unstable home lives are 44 percent more likely to try some form of drugs.

Three: Apathetic Relationships. All children crave affection. They want their parents’ approval, seek to earn security. When it’s not given, however, they become willing to settle for any form of recognition — even anger. Substance abuse can begin as a cry for attention; and those who aren’t cared for will often turn to alcohol or harder drugs. It’s believed that 50 percent of teens will respond in this way.

Recognizing these causes is essential for all individuals. When they can be understood, they can be more effectively combated in adult years — and this can lead to a lessening of abuse and the eventual dependence it can inspire.

The Alcohol Demands: Rehab

It’s an all too unhappy scenario: the day was far too long; the demands were far too many; and the cubicle squabblings pushed you ever closer to madness. It’s only right to now indulge in the one pleasure you have — alcohol. One sip is enough to relax you. Two sips are enough to make you grin. And soon those little tastes transform into several bottles, all stacked haphazardly on the table and emptied. Hours have passed and you didn’t even realize it. You were concerned only with flavor.

Such concern is shared by many Americans — and what it suggests is far more troubling than what you may believe.

Alcohol, as of 2011, is the most common drug of choice within the United States. Countless individuals sample it — and 18 million of those can be deemed addicts. Despite such staggering numbers, however, only eight percent of these users seek treatment each year. The rest assume they are immune to the worries of drinking or simply choose to handle rehabilitation without any outside aid.

Despite the lack of participation with most alcoholics, however, they still total 40 percent of all patients currently within rehab. And, of those individuals, 20 percent confess to having chronic conditions — with over four drinks consumed each day (and that number often expands when the work week is done).

These statistics are disturbing — and prove a far too easy acceptance of alcohol. Individuals must begin to note the dangers of this drug… and that is indeed a drug. Too often is it deemed a mere indulgence. This misconception must end and opinions must be reversed.

Rehabilitation can’t truly begin until alcohol is understood.