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So let’s say there is someone in your life whom you love more than you know but you have a feeling they may be sick. In a normal, conventional situation you would ask them to see a doctor. If the person noticed the symptoms too they would agree and the situation would be dealt with. But what if that persons illness is a drug or alcohol addiction? How do they respond then?
It’s difficult to confront an addict. There are situations where an intervention is in order and those work with varying degrees of success. However, there are times where you might feel forced or obligated to confront them one on one. This is not an easy thing to do but there are ways to make it a lot easier.
First, you have to be sure you know what you are “accusing” them of. Just because one time you saw them intoxicated or just because their behavior hasn’t seemed right doesn’t mean they are an addict. And even if they are, if you come at them with weak or unsure evidence, a true addict will deflate your argument and move on. Addicts can be very manipulative. This is why it’s important to know exactly why you are making this confrontation. What has convinced you that they need help?
The other thing you need to do is to let them know that you care about them. Most people don’t respond well when they feel like they are being attacked. So don’t come at them with hostility or anger. Let them know you are concerned but don’t let them talk you out of it either. Addicts love to make it seem like there is nothing wrong. Like it’s just them having a good time or it’s just a misunderstanding about their behavior. Make sure you let them know you love and care about them but you are not stupid either and you know fully well what is going on.
And be ready for a long battle. Drug addiction isn’t solved in one confrontation, but feel good about getting the process started.
